I've been reading a book called The Aladdin Factor by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen. A terrific book, particularly for us strong, silent, independent types who think we are required by some law of the universe to do things ourselves, and not to ask for help, because that would be a sign of weakness.
So what are the two things we can do today to help us succeed?
The first is check your handshake. It's amazing how many people, male and female, give the limp shake. It shouldn't come as a surprise that a limp shake gives the impression of low energy, of lack of interest, of lack of confidence. At the same time you're checking your grip, check out how you make eye contact. A limp shake with no eye contact is a sure turnoff to successful people. They might respect your technical talents, they may respect your accomplishments, but I guarantee they will not want you to represent their organization to other organizations, to "A" player candidates, or to any other influential person or organization. Use a mirror to practice your eye contact, your smile, and your words of introduction until they become second nature. Practice your handshake with a friend - preferably someone with a good, strong , non - finger - breaking grip, and make a firm, brief, full hand shake a habit. And use it with both men and women. Do it now.
The second is to ASK! The biggest part of The Aladdin Factor deals with asking for what we want - in life - in business - in relationships. Read it - it will change how you look at independence, as opposed to interdependence. Covey, in The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People talks about the three stages of development - dependence, independence and interdependence. I don't know about you, but I was brought up to believe independence is the highest stage of development. It isn't. Interdependence, working with others in so many ways, gives us leverage in our lives. If we don't ask for help, for advice, for checking our handshake - if we can't do that, we cannot reach that highest level of development. Read this book - do the exercises - ask. It will change your life.
Written by Andy Cox, President
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